Episode 69 of *Babies Down, Bottles Up* couldn’t have landed on a more fitting number. The hosts—Kisha, Terrin, and Josselyn—jump right into the theme with playful energy, acknowledging that this is their “Sexisode.” But before diving into the main topic, they take a few minutes to share stories from their personal lives.
Kisha tells a hilarious but stressful story about taking her son, Xane, for a checkup. In the middle of triage, when the nurse asked if he felt safe at home, he answered *no*—because of the dog. That comment threw Kisha into panic mode, knowing how serious such answers are taken by medical staff. She later had to sit him down to explain the consequences of saying things like that, driving home how quickly a joke can be misunderstood.
Meanwhile, Terrin vents about a disappointing food delivery. Her chicken Caesar salad arrived without cheese, dressing, or even properly cut chicken. To make matters worse, the baked potato she tried to salvage wasn’t even cooked through. The frustration, amplified by being on her period and hungry, led her to joke about planning her own funeral.
Josselyn, on the other hand, beams with excitement over the start of Libra season. Her upcoming weeks are packed with celebrations: a best friend visiting, the release of Taylor Swift’s album, the podcast meetup, and finally her birthday. She admits she’ll be “insufferable” with all the festivities.
And then there’s Danny, who casually drops that he’s been invited to play music at a festival in Louisville with friends Precious and Shane. While the women jokingly roast him for not telling them sooner, Danny emphasizes how meaningful it is to share the stage with close friends and how important it is to seize those moments. With that, he signs off, leaving the ladies to handle the sex talk.
Introducing the “Sexisode”
With the warm-ups out of the way, the hosts turn to the heart of the episode: sex and everything surrounding it. They laugh about the fitting timing—69 episodes in—and acknowledge that this is a subject they’ve wanted to tackle for a long time. From pregnancy changes to postpartum realities, birth control, toys, and communication, nothing is off the table.
Sex During Pregnancy
The first topic is intimacy while pregnant. All three hosts agree pregnancy shifts how you feel about your body and, in turn, your sex life. Hormonal swings, body image challenges, and rapid physical changes mean experiences vary widely.
– **Josselyn** recalls how her first pregnancy was marked by aversion—she couldn’t even tolerate her partner’s smell. But in her second pregnancy, the opposite was true: her sex drive skyrocketed, and she enjoyed intimacy more than ever.
– **Kisha** had contrasting pregnancies. During her first, she felt up for intimacy, but by the second she was exhausted and uninterested.
– **Terrin** found sex better during her second pregnancy, possibly due to increased blood flow and hormones.
The women stress that adjustments are essential—using pillows, slowing down, and finding new positions that accommodate a growing belly. Importantly, they highlight that intimacy doesn’t always mean sex. Gentle touch, cuddling, or simply being close can maintain connection.
Postpartum Realities: Healing, Dryness, and Body Image
The conversation then moves to life after birth, where sex often takes a backseat. Each host underscores the importance of respecting the six-week healing guideline, explaining that the body needs time to recover from a major physical event.
Terrin points out that afterbirth, the uterus has an internal wound where the placenta detached, making early penetration unsafe. Josselyn adds that breastfeeding often causes dryness, making lube essential. Both also admit that breastfeeding created mental barriers around breasts as a source of arousal, since they were simultaneously being used for feeding.
They also dive into body image struggles. After giving birth, many women don’t recognize their bodies, leading to self-consciousness. Josselyn shares how it took time to accept her new appearance and reframe her body as powerful for what it accomplished—carrying and nourishing life.
Communication, patience, and taking intimacy slowly—sometimes through nonpenetrative experiences—helped them rebuild confidence in their sexual selves.
Scheduling Sex and the Strain on Relationships
The women laugh about how sex often becomes “scheduled” after children arrive. Between co-sleeping, Velcro babies, and exhaustion, spontaneity is rare. Still, they emphasize how vital intimacy is for relationship health.
Terrin admits that when she and her husband go through dry spells, they argue more and feel less connected. Physical intimacy, she says, strengthens emotional intimacy, which makes couples more resilient to stress. They remind listeners that intimacy doesn’t always equal sex—it can be massages, showers together, or simply cuddling. The key is maintaining closeness in some form.
Birth Control and Its Impact on Desire
The hosts then dive into how birth control plays a role in sex lives.
– **Terrin** tried the birth control shot but hated it, saying it left her feeling like she was in menopause with no libido. Later, she found the mini pill and IUD worked better.
– **Josselyn** opted for a non-hormonal pill but noted it hurt her milk supply. Eventually, she stopped birth control altogether, leaning toward natural family planning. She also shares that after her second child, her husband got a vasectomy, which she says has been life-changing for their sex life.
– **Kisha** started birth control as a teenager for medical reasons but disliked the side effects and often stopped taking it. After pregnancies, she avoided going back, finding it unreliable and uncomfortable.
They agree that men should step up more—vasectomies are a far less invasive option than women’s surgical alternatives, and the responsibility shouldn’t always fall on women.
Keeping the Spark Alive
When it comes to long-term relationships, the group discusses ways to reignite passion.
– **Confidence and Self-Care**: Terrin recommends buying clothes or lingerie that fit your new body and make you feel attractive. Confidence, she argues, naturally fuels desire.
– **Communication**: Preferences change with pregnancies, age, and hormones. Being open about what feels good now is critical.
– **Experimentation**: Trying new positions, toys, or even apps designed for couples can bring freshness. They encourage women to explore their own bodies too, so they can clearly communicate desires to partners.
The hosts also make a strong point: stop faking orgasms. Doing so reinforces behaviors that don’t actually work, leaving women dissatisfied. Instead, be honest with partners about what feels good.
Blindness, Disability, and Sexuality
Toward the end, the conversation shifts to how society views blind people and sex. The women share frustrating encounters where people assume blindness makes them asexual. From Uber drivers being shocked that they have children to strangers on TikTok asking how blind people “do intimacy,” the misconceptions are endless.
They find these attitudes insulting, pointing out that disabled people have the same desires and abilities as anyone else. Comments like “you’re cute to be blind” or “who would want to be with you” reduce them to stereotypes instead of acknowledging them as full women.
Their responses to such ignorance vary—from sarcastic comebacks to flat-out confrontation—but they agree that these assumptions infantilize blind adults and erase their humanity. They encourage listeners to share their own stories of absurd comments, hoping to build a bank of sharp, witty responses.
Wrapping Up
The episode closes with laughter and gratitude. While the stories and advice ranged from funny to deeply vulnerable, the throughline was clear: sex is an important, evolving part of life, even with the challenges of pregnancy, postpartum, long-term partnerships, and disability. By being open, communicative, and willing to adapt, couples can keep intimacy alive.
The hosts tease that listeners who want the spicier, uncensored details should join their Patreon. With that, they sign off—proving that even when discussing taboo topics, *Babies Down, Bottles Up* balances humor, honesty, and empowerment.
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